Alone Doesn’t Have to Mean Lonely

I’m not the first in my family to live abroad. I recently found out that my Great Aunt almost went to Taiwan. Who knew? She almost went to the beautiful island I now call my second home. Not only that, my dad lived in Germany when it was East/West and he talks about how he misses his life there to do this day. The last time I talked to my brother on the phone, he told me our dad was watching the Bourne Trilogy to see Germany in the background.

It got me thinking, you know? This will one day be me. I can imagine myself watching movies simply for the scenes that were shot either in Shanghai or Taiwan. I don’t mean to be melancholy (or a better word for it would be sentimental).

Jpeg2015-04-01-15-58-05_deco2015-04-01-15-53-07_decoExplore the neighborhood

For starters, I went to my local park to see the beautiful flowers. It honestly felt kind of nice to be able to see what’s around my neighborhood. I at least can explore at my own pace. I really needed to get out for a while, honestly.

JpegSmall talk in small doses

Despite I’m introvert, it doesn’t mean I am anti-social. I may often find small talk irritable, it sometimes kind of nice to talk to a stranger every once in a while. For an example, a nice elderly man was held the elevator door for me to get inside. I quickly said thank you, pushing the button of the floor I’m going to. He looked over at me, “Do you speak Mandarin?” I replied,”A little bit.” “Ah,” he said while he was trying to get his dog into the bag. I looked down at his dog, “I think your dog is very cute.” His smile grew big, “Thank you!” He stepped out of the elevator smiling and so did I.

Besides, I realize strangers find it easier to approach you when you’re alone. I’ve had some of the most interesting talks when I’m solo.


My doodles may not be much, but at least drawing is inexpensive therapy and it gives me something to do on my free time. I have been inspired by living abroad. Shanghai is a vibrant city and it has become my third home.

C360_2014-07-19-14-34-34-265Dessert for one

I at least don’t have to share my dessert. I was craving Taiwanese shaved ice and going to the restaurant alone was totally worth it. What I like about eating in Taiwan or China is that it’s perfectly okay to eat alone at a restaurant. Despite I’m an introvert, even I didn’t dare to eat out alone while I was living in New England. You know what? I will probably continue to eat alone even when I go back to the States. If I’m craving x and y, I don’t need somebody to join me simply to eat it.

Side note: While I may have felt isolated in the past week, it didn’t last long. I kept busy by going to the park, got creative with the sharpie markers, had delicious Taiwanese dessert and even started reading more information on Denmark (don’t ask). I guess what I am trying to say is that sometimes I may feel disconnected, I do have a rather sweet life.

Now excuse me, I’m going to finish my cake. Nothing lasts forever, so I’m going to enjoy every last bite of it.


  1. Great post! I also feel like I’ve become much more open with the idea of eating meals on my own while living in Shanghai and appreciating that time, as well as the idea of silence.

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    1. Thank you! 🙂 While I’m a introvert, even I had trouble eating alone in the States at times. Now, I totally embrace it. I agree with you about appreciating the silence.

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      1. Absolutely! I feel like there’s much more social pressure in the U.S. And in China, partly because we’re foreigners and partly because the waiters are not attentive unless you want them to be, a lot of those barriers feel gone.

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  2. I felt the same in Taiwan! I’m pretty independent, and though I am pretty friendly and outgoing, I don’t feel I need people to feel content. When I was in Taiwan I loved to go explore on my own, to just go at my own pace. Alone but not lonely 😉


    1. I miss Taiwan! The beautiful island will always be my second home. I miss exploring the neighborhood I used to live in Taipei. Luckily, as a introvert, 99% of the time I’m never lonely. It’s just those holidays without having a community that sometimes get me… 😉


  3. Thanks – pleased to have discovered your distinctive blog. Looking forward to more exploration. Regards from Thom at the immortal jukebox (plugged in and ready to play)


  4. When I was in my late twenties I went travelling around the world on my own for a year. During that year my confidence grew immensely as I realised that if I wanted company I had to talk to strangers. And once you learn to open up to people, you change. It was an amazing experience and I would recommend everyone try travelling alone at least once. You also learn to be happy in your own company, which is another thing I recommend!


  5. I like doing things alone too- such as eating in a restaurant. I have a lot of friends but sometimes I enjoy having myself (more) as the only company 🙂


  6. I think, with takeout so readily available in the US, it’s true that you rarely see people eating out alone. I’ll do it, though, to avoid LA traffic. Especially if I have a book and the restaurant has good dessert!

    So is that gorgeous dessert Taiwanese shaved ice? It looks spectacular, and nothing like shaved ice in Hawaii, even. I’d eat alone for that — book or no book!


    1. I did the same in Taipei. I usually leave the school during rush hour and I know the bus is going to be crazy, so I go to a cafe and read a book while drinking my coffee. Haha.

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      Taiwan has desserts like these, as well. 🙂

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  7. Thanks for stopping by my blog Eileen 🙂
    Actually, your blog title made me curious till you say that you’re an introvert, same as me!
    I know how you feel (as introvert) and i’m impressed how brave you are to live abroad and you must face culture-shock, right?


  8. That dessert looks delicious.

    I’m an extrovert but have been thrown into a world of keeping myself company most of the time having been widowed. I’ve actually found it pretty liberating to travel alone, eat alone, make decisions, talk to random strangers!

    I really like your blog 🙂


  9. sometimes, one just needs to have dessert alone. all for oneself. it’s one of the simplest pleasures in life.


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