My husband, Dawen, and I are fortunate to be in a marriage where we don’t lose ourselves, but rather we embrace each other. We celebrate out cultures together and even create new traditions that only make our lives just a little bit more interesting. We may not always get each other’s jokes but we’re always laughing when we’re together. We communicate like childhood friends. It’s like what Forrest Gump said about Jenny – we’re just like peas and carrots.
It’s true that being in a intercultural marriage does have its challenges but there are also many perks as well. For instance, we mix our conversations with English, Mandarin Chinese and Taiwanese. I’m not going to lie, I like to watch Taiwanese Soap Operas with my mother-in-law.
Speaking of my mother-in-law, I’m slowly learning more about Chinese/Taiwanese culture and cooking Chinese/Taiwanese cuisine from her. I don’t mean to brag, but my mother-in-law is a force to be reckoned with. She sings like a professional musician, her calligraphy skills passes many “teachers” where they find her as a threat (this actually happened), she plays 古琴 well and don’t get me started on her cooking – she would put everybody out of business if she ever opens a restaurant in Taipei. Be thankful she was a Biology teacher. It’s true that I do admire her and hope to be half the woman she is.
Like I said, my mother-in-law has mad calligraphy skills.
It’s always a plus when we get to enjoy each other’s cuisine. Our typical meals? For lunch, I make Inari sushi (Taiwanese version of the Japanese delight) I learned from my mother-in-law. For dinner, my husband makes his famous Taiwanese style beef noodle soup and the next night I make potato beef stew with the leftover beef. We sometimes fuse our food cultures together. We did create one interesting sandwich together like no other. We should pattern it. Kidding. Sort of.
The Holidays last longer due to Chinese New Year. No, we don’t end our celebration on January 1. We keep going and when I mean we keep going, I really mean we keep eating. (Seriously, though, I really do miss my mother-in-law’s cooking). As you can see, I’m having the Holiday blues, and despite I’ve been in the States for over a year – I still find it rather hard to re-adjust. It’s just not happening.
If you’re also in a intercutlural relationship, maybe you can add on to the list.Happy Holidays, everyone!